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I Want Out! How to End an Unsatisfying Relationship
As life would have it, you’re bound to become involved in relationships that eventually lose their sparkle for you. You’re not alone—in order to find a rewarding relationship, most of us have endured a less-than-satisfying relationship.
But how can you successfully leave a relationship you’ve found to be unsatisfying?
Try these strategies:
- Be sure about your decision to exit the relationship: Give some thoughtful consideration to the reasons why you want to cut your connection with the person. When you go through the “whys” in your head, it will make it easier for you to move forward with a plan.
- Plus, many partners ask why you want to end the relationship, so it helps to be ready for the discussion.
- What are your concerns about ending the relationship? Perhaps you fear you won’t have another relationship. Frankly, the chance of never having another relationship is highly unlikely.
- Perhaps you fear the person will be angry with you. Maybe the person will have hurt and angry feelings—this fear is certainly possible. If your partner voices such feelings, endeavor to listen calmly without interruption.
- Financial concerns might also be a part of the picture, especially if the two of you are residing together. Ensure you give your financial situation some thought before making the break so you’ll have a workable plan on how you’ll proceed.
- Be honest and clear with yourself about your concerns. This way, you’ll have time to think through the sticking points to arrive at successful resolutions for each issue.
- Although you may have no such fears, you might have concerns the other person will manipulate you to stay. If so, it’s wise to have a friend or family member nearby who can step in and help you if needed.
- Plan to get to the point quickly, share your reasons if asked, and outline your plan for leaving if you live together.
- “I’ve been unhappy with our relationship over the past few months. I’ve decided to go my own way. I’m sorry but I feel this is the right thing to do.”
- “There have been some changes between us recently and I’ve decided to move out. I’m sorry.”
- “I’m sorry to say this but I no longer want to be in the relationship with you.”
- Avoid finger-pointing and blaming. Be confident and keep your cool.
Ending an unsatisfying relationship can be difficult. However, your life will improve when you take control and make decisions that are right for you. Be optimistic that you’re making the best choice you can. Embrace this change and move forward.