Are You Ready for a Serious Relationship?



is, have you been on your own for what seems like an eternity? Have you grown accustomed to asking for a table for one? Are you comfortable being alone? Or do you find yourself wishing for that special someone to spend time with, to cuddle with- I men it is cuffing season? Maybe you’re wondering if it’s time to move forward. Perhaps you had a traumatic breakup, spent some time healing and you feel you’re ready to return to the relationship/dating scene.

Answer the following questions when considering a long-term relationship:

  1. Have you completed education? Because  school require a great deal of time, it’s wise to get that out of the way before pursuing a serious relationship, especially if you’re pursuing multiple degrees- take my word for it sis- I know. Once you have more free time, you’ll be able to spend it getting to know someone special.
  1. Is your career off and running? Hopefully, the position you’re in at work is perfectly matched to your skills. There’s little job turmoil, you have some great co-workers, and you’re enjoying the work you’re doing.
  • Sure, there’ll come a time when you’ll want to move on and explore your other talents. But for now, you’re right where you’d choose to be career-wise.
  1. Are you over your last break-up? Be sure the hurt feelings you had over the loss of a prior relationship are gone. You realize that the end of a serious, long-term relationship doesn’t have to be anyone’s fault, and you’ve recovered from the experience. Do you still have triggers from the last relationship? If so be ready to communicate it to your new partner so he can ensure – he doesn’t intentionally do anything to stir up those triggers. Healing is a journey, it’s not overnight- it requires intentionality. You must tell yourself- I’ll not have the next , pay for the ex. the ex- mistakes, the ex- wrongdoings. Don’t hold your new partner hostage for pain from past hurts.
  2. Does finding that special someone consume you? Do your routine thoughts each day focus on having a lifelong partner? Btw he will find you, but you have to be positioned. Don’t be in your house , hoping somebody’s son is going to find you.Sis you’re going to have to come out of 
  • You want to see a familiar face each morning and make exciting plans for the future together. 
  • The yearnings inside you cannot be denied any longer.
  1. Do you see all that you have to offer to a prospective partner? Good sense of humor—check. Strong communication skills—check. Emotional intelligence- check. Conflict Resolution skills- check. Once you recognize all of your wonderful attributes, you will have the confidence to pursue a close, loving relationship.
  1. Are you in good shape financially? You’re working extra hard to pay off your college loans and current bills-Sis you know Uncle Sam is not going away so you have to confront and resolve that debt. You figure that within the next year, you’ll be living debt-free. 
  • The financial aspect is particularly important because money struggles can add challenges to a relationship- trust I know from experience.
  1. Do you marvel at the love you see? Are you in awe when you look at the incredible connection between your parents, grandparents, or family friend? 
  • It is very helpful to have good relationship role-models in your life. The emotional security of these relationships seems to overflow onto you when you’re around those who have solid relationships-You can’t be what you haven’t seen.
  • If you are yearning for a relationship, admit it. Your feelings are real and palpable. 
  1. Have you done some emotional work and soul searching? In your efforts to find the personal strength you once had, you must look within yourself. 
  • Have you done your own soul-searching and journaling? Or have you seen a therapist? Jesus + a therapist will guide you through emotional situations
  • If you’ve already identified and worked through your own personal struggles, you will certainly have the fortitude to make it through the ups and downs of a romantic relationship.


id you truthfully answer “Yes” to most or all of the questions above? If so,
this just may be the perfect time for you to pursue a new romantic relationship. Although it’s natural to be a bit unsure when taking the plunge to find a partner, realize that you’ve met and engaged in close emotional relationships with others in the past.  Life is full of highs and lows, whether you are single or involved in a relationship. If you’ve been on your own for a while, you’ve probably had the time to sort out many of these important aspects of your life. If you think you’re ready for a serious relationship, just go for it. Keep your eyes and ears open. The partner of your dreams may be nearby right now.

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